How To Tell If Your Child Is Transgender According To Experts

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Experts have offered tips to parents on the signs to lookout for that may indicate their child is transgender.

When a little boy tries out his sister’s dress, does that mean he is transgender or has he a vivid imagination?

The Associated Press spoke to gender experts to answer some of parents’ most commonly asked questions.

AP reports:


“My answer is, we don’t know,” says Diane Ehrensaft, a developmental and clinical psychologist, director of mental health at the University of California, San Francisco’s Child and Adolescent Gender Center and author of “The Gender Creative Child.”

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“What we know is, you have a son who likes princess dresses. I would say get him the dresses. Have your child feel free to choose. Maybe they’ll stop wearing dresses. Maybe they’ll grow up to be gay.”

Transgender children will be insistent, consistent and persistent about their gender dysphoria, she says.

“It’s not something the child says one time and it goes away.”

For critics who question whether preschool-age kids should be allowed to “socially transition,” Ehrensaft says: “We expect a 2-year-old to know ‘I am boy. I am girl.’ So why can’t that also apply to transgender children?”

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“If I’m a kid who occasionally wants to put on my mom’s high-heeled shoes or wear my mom’s princess dress, I’m not the kid who wants to live as a girl. I’m the boy who occasionally wants to wear girl’s clothes,” says Johanna Olson-Kennedy, medical director of The Center for Transyouth Health and Development at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles.

The important thing to ask is whether your child is in distress.

“Are you having daily battles about clothing before school?” Olson-Kennedy says. “There are some things that are pretty universal. Is this the kid that everyone is trying to give Mutant Ninja Turtles to, and what they really want is the gifts their sisters are getting?”

Using a child’s happiness and health as a guide is critical, she says.


It can also help for parents to get away somewhere with their child and allow the child to call the shots in terms of their gender, such as letting them use a different pronoun or wear a dress or other clothing of their choice, Olson-Kennedy says.

“Do it somewhere where you’re not going to see people you know, if that’s an issue for you,” she says. “Do a weekend as a different gender, and see what you learn.

“People have said this over and over again: ‘Oh, my God. I saw a side of my child I had never seen before.’”


Though there are no set rules, Ehrensaft says some early signals can provide information about whether a child is transgender. They include:

— Certain actions at a very young age, such as toddlers pulling barrettes from their hair, grabbing for their sister’s dress and dolls, or throwing away their trucks.

— The use of verbs regarding gender. Instead of “I wish I was a girl,” a transgender child will say, “I am a girl.”

— Frustration over their genitals. By around age 3, children understand “penis equals boy, and vagina equals girl,” Ehrensaft said. “Often those are the kids who cry out, ‘Why did God get it wrong? Mommy, can you put me back inside so I can come out like my sister?’”

— Taking “gender expansion play” seriously. Many young boys like to play dress-up in their sisters’ princess costumes, twirling around and then moving on to other toys, Ehrensaft said.

A transgender child “also wants to get into his sister’s closet, but he’s not going to go for the princess dress — he’s going to go for her school uniform,” she says. “He’s going to put on her everyday clothes because he wants to be a regular girl, not a pretend princess.”

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  1. The world has gone to shit. Why is nobody asking why there are so many so-called transgender cases? This is a very recent phenomenon made even worse by the nutbag left.

  2. A solid gold example of 21st Century horseshit. Up there with the Russians stole Hillary’s election.

  3. Why are there no transgender girls wanting to be boys? Why do guys apparently always want to be girls?

    • I’d like to see the amount of estrogen in various city water across the planet. Once you take hormones it’s excreted in urine into the water system where it’s difficult, if not impossible to remove. Also, some shampoo used to have estrogen in it until there was regulations to force them to stop. But even after the regulations some companies were allowed to continue to add it due to being grandfathered into the old rules. Estrogen that is ingested through the water HAS to have some sort of effects on growing fetuses. I’ve also took note of what appears to be a feminization of a large portion of the male population. I’m not an expert, but it seems an interesting bit of info that no one is talking about.

  4. Ehrensaft is not an expert, he is a twit. Why is it people are more likely to believe things because experts says it? Experts can be full of horse shit, and their studies mean nothing at all as they can bend the results to suit their overall aim, or dependent on who is funding these studies. It seems that parenting is getting harder these days….made harder by the stuff they put in our food and water etc.

  5. I was little and clowning around with my mom and put her shoes on and start imitating her behaviors that were funny to me. she laughed and told me take those shoes off you look ridiculous! that was the end of my exploration.
    Now if she would have said, “Oh you are so cute! ” and evetime her friends came over and she told me to go put on her shoes and walk around silly, I may have developed problem. Good parents don’t let their children get confused, or purposely confuse their children. that poor kid Jazz her family castrated that poor boy. OMG! Those parents are going to hell in a hand basket. Horrible beyond believe. they hacked that boy up. May God have mercy on their soul, or not, i don’t care to be honest, about what happens to the parents.

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